I am honored to share that I have been chosen to lead the first ever women's circle for WellSet at WMN Space in Culver City. WellSet is a platform for practitioners in the wellness industry to market their services and get connected to new clients. I was super flattered, and of course excited, since I absolutely love holding these spaces.
Compared to just three years ago when I first began running women's circles, it seems like they are everywhere now. I knew I had entered a different era when I walked into Madewell last year and saw them selling tarot cards!
I am thrilled with the wildfire-like spread of everything feminine over the past few years, and want it to continue to expand far and wide. I am SUPER committed to ushering in the new paradigm of feminine + masculine partnership in this next decade.
What I mean by that is this: for me, it is not about the rise of a matriarchy that will overthrow the patriarchy. Matriarchy and patriarchy are both hierarchies, and I believe and trust in the new Aquarian age of equality consciousness.
However, there is no doubt that the feminine has been desecrated for FAR too long, and the pendulum is swinging hard now in the other direction.
Feminine Rising, the name I chose for our community back in 2017, is all about a celebration of the rising of the feminine. In my eyes, the healthy feminine will continue to be cultivated, elevated, and expanded alongside the cultivation, elevation, and expansion of the healthy masculine, and together, this sacred union of yin + yang will take humanity to the next level.
This relates not just to our partnerships with each other, but also to our own inner union of the masculine and feminine.
To this end, we need to learn how to let go of the wounded expressions of the feminine and masculine that we have been programmed to carry in order to improve our relationships with each other and become healthier, more whole versions of ourselves.
One of the ways I am committing to pushing this vision forward is to elevate our relationships with each other as women. If you've been to one of my circles before, you know that I am all about cultivating a safe, welcoming space for ALL, and purposely working against the comparison mindset that we sometimes have when we gather. We truly need to continue to cultivate a collaboration (vs. competition) mindset that is focused on depth, not superficiality (what is she wearing? am I as pretty as her? does she have more Instagram followers than me?)
Instead, let's focus on supporting each others' work in the world, both personally and professionally, while continuing to push and challenge each other to become better humans.
When we can soften into who we are authentically and be at peace with that, without worrying about what other people think of us, and be held in sisterhood exactly in that place, it is SUCH A RELIEF.
On that note, come celebrate the New Moon in Aries in this kind of an environment on Tuesday, March 24 from 6:30 - 8:30 pm in Culver City.
WOMEN'S CIRCLE: NEW MOON IN ARIES
Tuesday, March 24, 2020
6:30 - 8:30 pm
Culver City, CA
Yay Aries, first sign of the zodiac, ushering in the fresh energy of spring! Our Aries-related theme this month is Courage. We will align with this vibration to take action on a certain goal or area in our lives that we may feel held back from due to fear or anxiety. Be supported by like-minded women who are committed to lifting each other up. You can sign up and find all of the circle information here.
I keep these circles small (8 women max) to create an intimate space to feel seen and heard safely.
I'LL HAVE: light snacks, tea, folded blankets to sit on.
BRING: extra blanket or cushion to sit on (optional), water, journal, pen.
WHAT TO EXPECT: We get familiar with each other through introductions, I'll speak about the theme and facilitate discussion, we'll move into a guided meditation, and end with an intention setting ritual.
Upcoming New Moon Circle Dates:
4/23 - New Moon in Taurus
5/22 - New Moon in Gemini
6/20 - New Moon in Cancer + Summer Solstice
7/19 - New Moon in Cancer
8/18 - New Moon in Leo
Head over to this page if you want to reserve your spot for these future circles.
I'll wrap with a quote from Osho on courage:
Life begins where fear ends.
Love you all,
The man of my dreams is here and it's beyond anything that I have ever felt.
I can't really tell you this story properly without giving you some background info. I'm a 41 year old single mom to a 10 year old boy. We live in Los Angeles, where I've been for the past 13 years.
My divorce in 2017 was the single most difficult thing I have ever experienced emotionally. The two year period of time that led up to it (2014-16) was the darkest time of my life. We had been together for nearly 20 years. With a child together and a house we bought together, the ending of our marriage ripped the foundation of everything I thought was real right under my feet. I felt like I had hit rock bottom. Many days I did not know if I would be able to go on. The pain was excruciating, and it was the most devastating heartbreak I had ever felt.
But today I literally thank God every day for this experience. It required immense amounts of emotional resilience, courage, and perseverance, but turned out to be my single greatest blessing. Through the help of therapy and deeply reconnecting to my spiritual path, I was able to clearly see how broken our relationship had been, how low my self-worth was (I was settling for way less than I deserved, and was totally idolizing him), how disconnected I was from my intuition, and how utterly disempowering living in victim mode is.
At some point - I'm not sure exactly when - I became determined to become an expert in relationship dynamics and how to make sure this NEVER happened again.
I dove head first into learning about healthy relationships, healing my self-worth, and reconnecting deeply to my femininity. (My intuition guided me on that last part; I knew this side of me HAD to be healed, but didn't have a clue that it would lead me to where I am today.)
At the same time, I reconnected to my spirituality, which I had suppressed for years during my marriage due to it not being okay with him. Although any spiritual practice would have been unacceptable with his atheist upbringing, the fact that my type of spirituality is witchy and weird made it even more important to disown.
Thankfully, seeing clearly that I needed to claim my authenticity and become 100% myself without shame allowed me to delve back in to my witchy world of tarot, astrology, paganism, psychics, and all the other things.
It was the intersection of spirituality and femininity that has gotten me where I am today - deeply involved in women's work, the divine feminine, tantra, and sacred sexuality.
In the process of healing myself, along with the very necessary experience of dating for two years (which allowed me to refine exactly what I was looking for + test my self-worth), I became clear on certain skills and teachings that allowed me to attract healthy love.
What effortlessly flowed out of me was a program for women called Whole Heart, a 12 week curriculum to learn the inner and outer work of being in conscious relationship.
About six months after I created the program and had been taking women through it, my king arrived.
I firmly believe with 100% of my being that because of these principles, I was able to attract the man of my dreams.
About a month before we met, I had outlined all of the qualities that I desired in a partner in my journal. I had FOUR pages of requirements listed out.
When I went back and read it after just a week of us dating, he had met all of my criteria. I had already known that he was the one. It was absolutely mind blowing.
What I know now is that not only do you have to have a crystal clear idea of what you want and need in a partner, you have to BELIEVE that you are worthy of all of it.
Otherwise it will not work.
This is why quick fix manifestation strategies will fail unless you partner them with deeper work.
Writing a list to the universe of what you want is a very common strategy in law of attraction circles.
But you won't get what you ask for unless you are truly ready for it.
Now I'm in the deepest, most intimate, most connected relationship I have ever been in. Our connection is intensely physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual - and these are the four foundations that (for me) are non-negotiables in the kind of relationship that I want.
Our love is just getting started and we are ready to conquer the world.
My man gives me such deep, beautiful presence when we are together. He and I regularly experience incredibly blissful divine union by consciously playing with our polarities of masculine and feminine. He and I speak the same language, have the most amazing, mind blowing sex, love each other deeply, and are planning to travel the world together. I am literally the happiest and most fulfilled that I have ever been.
When I was writing that list in my journal, I didn't hold back. I put down every single quality that my heart desired, and I got it.
What I'm experiencing with him now is a depth that I have never known, and it's exactly what I had been yearning for. It's here now, I am grateful for him every single day, and I wish the same for you: 100%.
I absolutely LOVE talking about love, sex and relationships. It's literally an obsession of mine. If you are searching for healthy love, or if you're currently in a relationship but know something is lacking, I would love nothing more than to work with you. You deserve the best, and I'm not even kidding. Please read more about Whole Heart and reach out if you feel called. I currently have two openings as of January 2020 to work with women who wish to attract the man of their dreams.
I just got off the phone with a client and am in deep reflection mode about just how powerful the words that I speak are to those I serve. Every single response that I have towards what clients tell me has an influence on them, whether we are conscious of it. When speaking to clients about major life issues, such as when they are at a crossroads in their relationships, jobs, or whatever else, my words have the potential to have a huge impact on them. Whether it's comfortable to admit or not, this is power over another, and it's something I take VERY seriously. I always work consciously from a place of attempting to empower my clients rather than have them become dependent on me, but the basic nature of the therapist-client relationship is that they are depending on me on some level.
When giving a strong opinion to someone, even though we try to work from a place of having our clients' best interest in mind, we always need to be mindful of the impact that it may have on their life. What may have worked for us in our own lives, what may have worked for other clients, or simply what best practice is based on our training - none of this means that it is necessarily right for the other person. They ultimately need to make their own decisions and choices.
Some therapists are so intent on avoiding this dynamic so they minimize giving advice as much as possible. However, the essential therapist-client relationship is based on one person seeking help and the other person supporting, so it's never possible to completely avoid this power differential.
I am confident in my own skills and wisdom (and clearly market my offerings as such) that I am not someone who avoids giving advice if I really do feel that it has the potential to positively impact someone.
As an aside - I have spoken about this before, but this astrological shift from the age of Pisces to the age of Aquarius will see the end of hierarchical power structures and power differentials. Just how in the medical field we are seeing regular folks empowering themselves with their own health information and really questioning the validity of doctors, etc, the same thing should be happening in the field of mental health.
Certainly with the rise of the self-help movement, many of us are attempting to empower ourselves with the own skills that we need to be successful and happy human beings. However, I do believe that the role of the therapist is still useful and relevant right now. We all need support sometimes, and it's not always possible to get through certain things on our own. Seeking support from others is not a weakness. Even if we feel really strong and empowered, it's still difficult to see outside of ourselves from a neutral perspective, without all of our conditioning.
With that being said, I wish to encourage those who are therapists to 1) consistently reflect on the power that they have in changing the lives of clients, 2) always work from a place of empowering others to the best of their ability, and 3) constantly be doing their own work on themselves.
And honestly, I have to say this really clearly - it worries me that just anyone can become a 'coach' these days. While on the one hand I think it's great that so many people have a desire to help others, without proper psychological training, individuals working in this capacity may unintentionally be harming people. Even the best coaching programs I've looked at just do not have the depth of training that psychologists have to go through.
Psychology is not perfect. There is a lot that's still broken in the field, and part of the reason that I've expanded my transformational tools way outside of the box of psychology is because traditional therapy alone does not have all the answers. HOWEVER, I did go through years of training, practicums, and internships before I was even allowed to practice, and I do think that having standards, regulations, and specific ethical training is essential before working with others. Again, it comes back to the realization of just how much influence and power we have over other people when working in this capacity.
Ultimately, it's up to the client to decide who they want to work with - but at least from my perspective, I've been trained to take what I do very seriously.
With all of that being said, I fully acknowledge that there are some bad psychologists out there and some really amazing coaches. I am not trying to bad mouth coaches, but what I share above is a legitimate worry of mine.
Ultimately, I leave it up to the client to trust their own intuition. While it's important for therapists, coaches, etc. to always check themselves in terms of how they practice, it's equally important for clients to choose to work with people who make them feel supported, comfortable, and who are actually helping them achieve their goals, and find someone else if this is not happening.
I'm really interested to hear what you have to say about the power of therapists, coaches, etc. Have you worked with someone who has had an amazing, powerful impact on your life? Or conversely, have you worked with someone who negatively impacted you? I would love to hear in the comments below!
Leigh-Anne is a psychologist based in Los Angeles specializing in next-level love, sex, and relationships. She is the founder of Feminine Rising, a global community for women. You can find her on Instagram @feminine__rising