The man of my dreams is here and it's beyond anything that I have ever felt.
I can't really tell you this story properly without giving you some background info. I'm a 41 year old single mom to a 10 year old boy. We live in Los Angeles, where I've been for the past 13 years.
My divorce in 2017 was the single most difficult thing I have ever experienced emotionally. The two year period of time that led up to it (2014-16) was the darkest time of my life. We had been together for nearly 20 years. With a child together and a house we bought together, the ending of our marriage ripped the foundation of everything I thought was real right under my feet. I felt like I had hit rock bottom. Many days I did not know if I would be able to go on. The pain was excruciating, and it was the most devastating heartbreak I had ever felt.
But today I literally thank God every day for this experience. It required immense amounts of emotional resilience, courage, and perseverance, but turned out to be my single greatest blessing. Through the help of therapy and deeply reconnecting to my spiritual path, I was able to clearly see how broken our relationship had been, how low my self-worth was (I was settling for way less than I deserved, and was totally idolizing him), how disconnected I was from my intuition, and how utterly disempowering living in victim mode is.
At some point - I'm not sure exactly when - I became determined to become an expert in relationship dynamics and how to make sure this NEVER happened again.
I dove head first into learning about healthy relationships, healing my self-worth, and reconnecting deeply to my femininity. (My intuition guided me on that last part; I knew this side of me HAD to be healed, but didn't have a clue that it would lead me to where I am today.)
At the same time, I reconnected to my spirituality, which I had suppressed for years during my marriage due to it not being okay with him. Although any spiritual practice would have been unacceptable with his atheist upbringing, the fact that my type of spirituality is witchy and weird made it even more important to disown.
Thankfully, seeing clearly that I needed to claim my authenticity and become 100% myself without shame allowed me to delve back in to my witchy world of tarot, astrology, paganism, psychics, and all the other things.
It was the intersection of spirituality and femininity that has gotten me where I am today - deeply involved in women's work, the divine feminine, tantra, and sacred sexuality.
In the process of healing myself, along with the very necessary experience of dating for two years (which allowed me to refine exactly what I was looking for + test my self-worth), I became clear on certain skills and teachings that allowed me to attract healthy love.
What effortlessly flowed out of me was a program for women called Whole Heart, a 12 week curriculum to learn the inner and outer work of being in conscious relationship.
About six months after I created the program and had been taking women through it, my king arrived.
I firmly believe with 100% of my being that because of these principles, I was able to attract the man of my dreams.
About a month before we met, I had outlined all of the qualities that I desired in a partner in my journal. I had FOUR pages of requirements listed out.
When I went back and read it after just a week of us dating, he had met all of my criteria. I had already known that he was the one. It was absolutely mind blowing.
What I know now is that not only do you have to have a crystal clear idea of what you want and need in a partner, you have to BELIEVE that you are worthy of all of it.
Otherwise it will not work.
This is why quick fix manifestation strategies will fail unless you partner them with deeper work.
Writing a list to the universe of what you want is a very common strategy in law of attraction circles.
But you won't get what you ask for unless you are truly ready for it.
Now I'm in the deepest, most intimate, most connected relationship I have ever been in. Our connection is intensely physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual - and these are the four foundations that (for me) are non-negotiables in the kind of relationship that I want.
Our love is just getting started and we are ready to conquer the world.
My man gives me such deep, beautiful presence when we are together. He and I regularly experience incredibly blissful divine union by consciously playing with our polarities of masculine and feminine. He and I speak the same language, have the most amazing, mind blowing sex, love each other deeply, and are planning to travel the world together. I am literally the happiest and most fulfilled that I have ever been.
When I was writing that list in my journal, I didn't hold back. I put down every single quality that my heart desired, and I got it.
What I'm experiencing with him now is a depth that I have never known, and it's exactly what I had been yearning for. It's here now, I am grateful for him every single day, and I wish the same for you: 100%.
I absolutely LOVE talking about love, sex and relationships. It's literally an obsession of mine. If you are searching for healthy love, or if you're currently in a relationship but know something is lacking, I would love nothing more than to work with you. You deserve the best, and I'm not even kidding. Please read more about Whole Heart and reach out if you feel called. I currently have two openings as of January 2020 to work with women who wish to attract the man of their dreams.
Leigh-Anne is a psychologist based in Los Angeles specializing in next-level love, sex, and relationships. She is the founder of Feminine Rising, a global community for women. You can find her on Instagram @feminine__rising