Out of all of my offerings, my favorite thing ever is working one-on-one with women. There is just no substitute for the depth of work that this allows.
Your energy + my energy co-creates the results, and I'm currently so blessed to work with smart, motivated women who have a deep desire to break through.
Here are some of the things I teach women:
- the art of feminine magnetism ✨
- how to attract epic love ❤️
- healing shame around s-x and body 💋
- owning your true worth as a woman 🙏
- the dance of union + separation 🔥
I have three spots left for women to work with me 1:1 - click here to apply.
I'm a psychologist with a passion for love, sex and relationships, and have years of experience working with hundreds of clients.
All of my 1:1 clients get free access to my women’s circles, email/text support between sessions, and deeply individualized recommendations.
Email me with any questions ♥️♥️♥️
📸 by @travspringer 🙏
Forgive me for my trespasses as I forgive those who trespass against me...
Forgiveness towards an important person in my life has been one of the hardest journeys I’ve ever taken. I think that those who have also lived through childhood sexual abuse understand.
However - on my best days, I see this opportunity to forgive as a high blessing. I’ve done awful things in my life too, I realized. We all have.
Is stewing in a place of chronic shame and guilt helpful?
I enjoy holding people accountable. I also hold myself highly accountable. I’ve held this person accountable, and continued to bind and suffocate him in the shackles of shame and guilt.
That won’t help him to evolve as a human. Shame should never be used as a teacher.
The other day it finally happened. I (finally) fully forgave him and everything melted away.
For me, forgiveness has not been linear. But this time, it felt complete.
Through forgiveness, I free up space for both he + I to move towards our highest selves. That’s not possible when using the weapons of guilt + shame.
Shame as a teacher will not create a better world. We’re causing harm whether we know it or not.
I believe we can hold each other accountable - with love. ❤️❤️❤️
What do you think?
📸 via @somos.otempo
Today is Autumn Equinox, a time of sacred balance between the light + dark, sky + earth, masculine + feminine. This happens every year on the day the sun enters Libra, the sign of the scales.
Balance is a deep + meaningful theme that I have been immersed in from a spiritual perspective over the past six years - in particular, the balance between the yin + yang, or feminine + masculine aspects of ourselves (and in partnership).
Autumn Equinox is traditionally a time where we do two things: celebrate everything that we have manifested in our lives (i.e. what are we grateful for?) AND simultaneously turn towards those things that may not be working, so that we can prepare to enter the dark half of the year in deep reflection and contemplation (i.e. facing our shadows).
Can you do both? Can you hold each of these opposing energies in your body - the celebration and pure gratitude of everything + everyone around you, while also being able to clearly see that which has not served you?
This takes courage, because often it includes an aspect of ownership to accept the things that we have participated in creating that just aren't working anymore.
And releasing those things with love.
This is a great time to do shadow work, begin therapy, spend some deep time in meditation, journaling, spiritual practice, connecting to your intuition, going on retreats, scheduling lots of rest/down time, self-care, reading, etc.
If we don’t honor this time of reflection that nature has literally embedded in the seasons (and in our bodies), we are out of alignment with what the universe is calling us to embrace - this sacred cycle of building + releasing, creation + destruction, death + rebirth. We must welcome it all.
Always focusing our energy outwards on what we want to manifest without ever checking in with ourselves on how it’s going - on whether what we are manifesting is actually serving us in the highest way - is problematic.
And yet it symbolizes this imbalance in our culture where we are SO focused on productivity and the hustle, without slowing down, going inwards, and reflection on our lives.
It's symbolic of the imbalance between the masculine + the feminine.
This doesn't only lead to physical burnout, but it also keeps the same patterns playing out over and over that are embedded in our shadows, because we are not focusing on (or we are trying to suppress) the dark parts of ourselves that we’d prefer not to look at.
Some of us are really good at facing our shadows. We are very motivated to tackle them and make them better. Others are not very good at this, we have avoidance tendencies and fear around facing our shadows. It's all good, but awareness is key.
Be gentle with yourself and go at your own pace, as long as you are honoring this time of the year in SOME way - just understanding the energetics of this time of the year can make an impact.
Your body knows the way, it wants to pull inwards and slow down as the days get shorter and the light wanes.
Follow that deep inner knowing.
One very simple way that you can do this in ritual is to make some time for yourself tonight (even 20 minutes would suffice) to get quiet, go inwards, and journal about the following:
What is working, and what's not working in the following areas of my life?
Light a candle, do some breathwork, dance, make it holy. Whatever feels good to you.
Really feel into the gratitude and celebration of what's working in each area, and use the reflections on what isn't working to create some intentions on how you'd like your life to shift there.
Ritual does not have to be complicated. Once you are connected to the deeper purpose of why this is sacred, you make it your own.
I'd love to hear anything that comes up for you after this process - feel free to reply to this email and let me know.
Sending Equinox Blessings,
The Key to High Level Romantic Relationships
Resentment is the #1 poison that impacts romantic relationships, and here is one of the keys to avoiding it.
You MUST make the time and space to regularly bring up anything in the relationship that is not feeling good to you.
1) Courage on the part of both people.
2) A safe space in the relationship to bring things up.
3) Clarity on how you would like to be treated (your boundaries AND your deepest desires).
4) A belief that this relationship is so important that it is an absolute disservice NOT to bring it up.
5) A belief that romantic relationship provides the opportunity for you + the other person to rise into your highest selves, and that you can rise to the occasion of becoming the best human you can be through this relationship.
Conscious, open, healthy communication in relationships is SO key. Do not take this as an opportunity to dump things on the other person, shame them, or point fingers. Express yourself from the place of loving the relationship SO much that you need to clear the air in order to evolve the partnership into the highest version possible.
How does it feel inside your body when you think about bringing something up in your relationship that doesn't feel good to you?
We are currently trying to out-yell each other in our society.
Does power and respect always have to come from a place of being loud and domineering? Can softness + quietness be honored? Can we collectively question who gets the most attention, for our highest good?
Right now showing up to be seen and heard is a huge + necessary theme. And as someone who has healed pretty debilitating social anxiety, I can tell you that in the beginning stages of unraveling that, I thought I had to be really loud and big.
While that was certainly part of my journey, today I am listening deeply to my body and what feels good for me. And often times when I feel most connected to my most authentic self, I am a quiet + soft spoken person.
I was told countless times from childhood to speak up. But what if it's not necessary for us to be the loudest person in the room? What if you, as the listener, actually needs to slow down and quiet yourself in order to hear ME?
It's that quality of deep listening that we are truly lacking in our culture today.
From a young age I connected to the more Eastern philosophy that the quieter personality type was actually more wise. I am still to this day triggered by others who are loud and take up a lot of space. It's actually not that I think you don't have the RIGHT to be heard and to take up space. It's the WAY it is sometimes done that bothers me - when it feels like the person is one upping everyone around them AND are too self-centered to notice others that deserve to be seen + heard too, even if they aren't the loudest people in the room. How can we make space for everyone's unique expressions?
Rather than saying one way of being is wrong and the other is right, I am interested in embodying my full expression. There are days where it feels good to be loud and wild. Truly, I've had to expand my own definition of who I am, identity-wise. Women are cyclical and NOT linear, and this is a gift that I've embraced. But today I noticed powerfully that I hadn't fully loved my soft and quiet side until just now :)
What does this bring up for you?
We have the opportunity to open to pleasure way more than we allow ourselves to.
In any given moment, we can shift our awareness to the present moment and experience life as fully as possible through all of our senses.
We can eat food slowly, savoring every bite and feeling enormously grateful.
We can take the time to caress our own skin, hair, and body with love and tenderness.
We can put clothes on that feel amazing on our skin.
We can listen to beautiful music that uplifts and nourishes us.
We can go outside and breathe in the trees, sun, sky, and plants.
We can notice and appreciate moments of joy as they arise, and learn to deepen and expand that experience - to allow ourselves to be in that state for much longer than we normally would.
We can look deeply into our lover's eyes, seeing them at a soul level and loving them profoundly.
So given that humans are naturally wired towards pleasure and wanting to feel good, why don't we do this more often? Why do we continually cut ourselves off from this experience?
One reason is that our collective self worth is so tied to constant busyness. It simply doesn't allow us to slow down and savor every moment we are here.
I want to live life much, much more slowly. Don't you?
photo via @twothirdshoney
In 2017, I chose the name Feminine Rising for my women's community. Without a doubt, this can be interpreted many different ways. So, what's my interpretation of Feminine Rising?
The feminine is clearly rising up to take her rightful place alongside the masculine - within each of us individually, and collectively on a larger scale.
I say alongside very intentionally - because I do not believe in punishing the masculine by overtaking, shaming or suppressing it. We need the healthy expression of both to be in balance.
I am a bit different from others doing women's work, as I am not calling for a matriarchy to rise up and suppress men. I am fed up with hierarchies of all kinds, and we need to move past this way of thinking to evolve as a human race.
We ALL have masculine + feminine sides. Yet as the masculine relates to men, it is true that they have a lot of work to do to release toxic masculinity and embody the healthy masculine. They have been conditioned and socialized just as women have been conditioned and socialized.
That work is HAPPENING and things are shifting. I fully support those doing this type of men's work - John Wineland, David Deida, Stefanos Sifandos and others - as it is very needed at this time.
There are so many men waking up and embracing this work, and it's a beautiful thing. At the same time, we as women have our own work to do, and that's what I am passionate about helping with.
The new age of Masculine + Feminine partnership - both within ourselves as individuals, and together in relationships - is here, and I am passionate about ushering in this new paradigm.
Many women (and men) are misinformed about the healthy, pure expression of the feminine. This is because we are not taught about what femininity truly means from a deeper, more spiritual level.
(The same can be said about the masculine. So men and women alike are left with distorted, confused teachings and models of what it means to be masculine + feminine.)
When most of us think about femininity, we think of superficial things like appearance. That's such a shame, because the true definition of the feminine goes so much deeper.
So what does femininity really mean, and why does it matter?
This is not about the physical bodies we reside in, although you can certainly make an argument that the biological expression of the feminine and masculine through our physical forms is part of it.
The vagina as a sacred portal of receptivity and the penis as a tool of penetration are metaphoric representations of the feminine + masculine energies on a spiritual level. However, you don't need to have a physical penis to carry around an energetic cock in the world, and vice versa.
Beyond the physical level and into a deeper, more spiritual level, this is about the expression of two different frequencies found all throughout nature, the yin + the yang, which ideally should be in balance. It's about polarity.
And while we are talking about polar opposites, true integration of both means we can flow along the spectrum, understanding and mastering the healthy expression of both and how they complement each other.
We all have masculine and feminine energies inside of us, and we all fall somewhere along the spectrum of both.
However, for a very long period of time, the feminine has been misunderstood, suppressed, and disrespected. For women especially, this can lead to energetic discord, especially for those of us who tend to have a more innate feminine frequency.
I don't really come across many women who are truly embodying their healthy feminine expression. I don't care where they fall along the spectrum of masculine + feminine, most women simply have not been properly educated about what the healthy feminine even IS so that they can become aware of how to incorporate (or re-embrace) it into their lives.
Women have been taught that embodying masculine characteristics is the way to get respect, power, and protection, at the expense of being able to relax and soften into our femininity. Constant striving, doing, and achieving have left us burnt out and unable to experience the bliss of deep receptivity and pleasure.
Many women have achieved great success and financial abundance through relying on masculine characteristics, but often struggle with burnout, disconnection from their bodies, sexual difficulties, and an inability to slow down + truly savor what they have accomplished.
There are also some women who appear very feminine on a superficial level, but deep down they are disconnected and/or confused about the true definition of the feminine and have this underlying sense that something is off.
The root of anxiety and depression in women can have many causes, but I believe that a lack of connection to our feminine essence, or shakti, can be a contributing factor in many cases.
Most women also lack the knowledge about polarity in romantic relationships, and may be in a partnership that lacks passion and magnetism, leading to deep levels of dissatisfaction.
I believe that we all have a need to experience deep love and sexual fulfillment, and when this is not being felt, we all have a yearning for something more.
Additionally, both the feminine and the masculine have healthy + toxic ways of expressing themselves. We are currently cleansing the toxicity within both frequencies that has been holding humanity back from true ascension. There is a beautiful divine union that occurs with the honoring and expression of both, the wholeness and true integration of yin + yang.
Through my own reclamation of the feminine, I was able to deeply transform myself and those around me, in addition to attracting the love of my life.
That isn't to say that I embody my feminine 100% of the time. There's no need to! I see and deeply honor both the feminine + masculine within myself, and thoroughly enjoy dancing between the two to experience the full spectrum of life.
The fun of polarity in relationship with another human is that you can play around with embodying more of one frequency over the other, while your partner does the opposite, to truly amplify the magnetism and sexual attraction. And what's amazing is that this can also be a dance, where both partners can embody and heal BOTH within themselves.
I wasn't able to FULLY heal and soften into my feminine side before meeting my partner and practicing this with him consciously. And God, I cannot tell you how good it feels to fully surrender and be held by him in this space. This requires a level of deep trust in your partner.
Before getting to this place, I was disconnected from my feminine, totally burnt out, holding shame around my body + sexuality, and wasn't at all enjoying the slower, sensual pleasures of life.
Now, after studying the feminine mysteries for the past five years and really embodying the teachings, I have healed on a physical, emotional, mental + spiritual level. I'm living life at a completely different frequency, and everyone around me can see it.
I am now dedicated to helping women reconnect to their feminine, remove layers of internalized misogyny, heal burnout and imbalance, and experience what life can be like to live full spectrum.
My purpose is to help you:
Because I believe that we experience the most profound level of transformation through conscious partnership, which includes sacred sexuality, I have a specific focus on love, sex + relationships in my practice.
I currently offer 1:1 sessions, women's circles, and retreats to help women become the best version of themselves in order to attract epic love, or deepen their relationship with their partners. Get in touch if you want to learn more.
Image via @theancientgemstone
Although astrology has evolved over my lifetime from what used to be a more fatalistic approach to one that is more fluid, I still see people drawn to astrology giving far too much of their power away. Just look at Mercury retrograde - people cannot handle it. And when the sun moves into a sign they don't like, it's a bad month all around. This perspective comes from the view that life is happening to them - that they are powerless. Something greater is pulling the puppet strings.
We cannot continue to give our power away to external forces. I believe that astrological events magnify certain energies that we can co-create with, which is incredibly beautiful. Every sign and planet is an archetype reflecting the possibilities of what can unfold for us - as above, so below. If certain signs or astrological happenings rub you the wrong way, it's an opportunity to engage in a deeper inquiry with yourself on why this is the case.
For example, Leo used to be one of my least favorite signs because I thought it was too proud, too boastful. After working with astrology on a deeper level (in addition to gaining maturity) I realized that was because I used to have major social anxiety and hated being in the spotlight. The thought of being loud and seen was not in my realm of possibilities. Now I love Leo for the inspiration + courage it provides. I love expanding my definition of who I am + who I can be in this world.
Along the same lines, beware of being locked into your sun sign, or even your whole chart for that matter. We can amplify whatever qualities we might be lacking in our charts through conscious cultivation. Never allow anything in this world to limit your endless possibility of expression.
Image via @nicolebentleyphoto
A new resource for everyone:
Lately, I've been helping a lot of individuals get clear on what they want, need, and deserve in romantic relationships, whether they are single or currently in one.
As many of you know, this was a process I also had to go through in order to attract my current partner and love of my life, so I feel VERY passionately about it.
I've developed a formula that works, and I've broken it down into clear, actionable steps for you. Today I created a PDF guide that completely outlines how you also can get clear on what you want, need, and deserve. This guide also provides valuable next steps, whether you are single and looking to manifest the perfect partner, or already have a relationship that you want to take to the next level.
Download it here.
Additionally, for those of you who work through this PDF and are looking for additional support, I'm offering a 90 minute group call this Sunday, August 16th from 3:30 - 5:00 PST over Zoom, so everyone is welcome worldwide. We'll discuss the topic in more detail and I'll answer any questions you may have.
The cost is $15, and if you'd like to join, simply email me to RSVP.
Sending all good things,
Image from my current teacher, @kimanami
"In this time of Spring, who are you at the core of your true nature and innocence? What are you creating now?" - Lara Catone
This year, the Spring Equinox is exact on Thursday, March 19th at 8:49 pm PST, as the Sun enters Aries. It's a time of equality between the light and the dark, marking the point at which the days will start to get longer and warmer as the sun prepares to take center stage.
For those of us who celebrate The Wheel of the Year, it is considered a High Holy Day that is best recognized in ceremony and ritual.
The Spring Equinox represents:
The simple fact that the amount of light we are exposed to has a direct and powerful impact on our energy levels + motivation is a beautiful reminder of how the seasons and other cycles found in nature can influence us so profoundly.
I'm hosting my first ever virtual Women's Circle to celebrate with those of you who wish to gather in an intentional space with like-minded women.
The circle will be held this Thursday 3/19 from 6:30 - 8 pm PST on Zoom, and if you'd like to join, just reply back and let me know.
In order to keep this a small, intimate gathering, we will have 10 women max.
It will be donation based, so offer what you wish. If you decide to join, I'll send you the Zoom link and Venmo for you to contribute what you like.
WOMEN'S CIRCLE: SPRING EQUINOX
Thursday, March 19, 2020
6:30 - 8 pm PST
Virtual through Zoom
WHAT TO EXPECT:
When you reply back to RSVP, I'll save a seat for you + will send you the Zoom link to join.
Love you all,
Leigh-Anne is a psychologist based in Los Angeles specializing in next-level love, sex, and relationships. She is the founder of Feminine Rising, a global community for women. You can find her on Instagram @feminine__rising