Today is Autumn Equinox, a time of sacred balance between the light + dark, sky + earth, masculine + feminine. This happens every year on the day the sun enters Libra, the sign of the scales.
Balance is a deep + meaningful theme that I have been immersed in from a spiritual perspective over the past six years - in particular, the balance between the yin + yang, or feminine + masculine aspects of ourselves (and in partnership).
Autumn Equinox is traditionally a time where we do two things: celebrate everything that we have manifested in our lives (i.e. what are we grateful for?) AND simultaneously turn towards those things that may not be working, so that we can prepare to enter the dark half of the year in deep reflection and contemplation (i.e. facing our shadows).
Can you do both? Can you hold each of these opposing energies in your body - the celebration and pure gratitude of everything + everyone around you, while also being able to clearly see that which has not served you?
This takes courage, because often it includes an aspect of ownership to accept the things that we have participated in creating that just aren't working anymore.
And releasing those things with love.
This is a great time to do shadow work, begin therapy, spend some deep time in meditation, journaling, spiritual practice, connecting to your intuition, going on retreats, scheduling lots of rest/down time, self-care, reading, etc.
If we don’t honor this time of reflection that nature has literally embedded in the seasons (and in our bodies), we are out of alignment with what the universe is calling us to embrace - this sacred cycle of building + releasing, creation + destruction, death + rebirth. We must welcome it all.
Always focusing our energy outwards on what we want to manifest without ever checking in with ourselves on how it’s going - on whether what we are manifesting is actually serving us in the highest way - is problematic.
And yet it symbolizes this imbalance in our culture where we are SO focused on productivity and the hustle, without slowing down, going inwards, and reflection on our lives.
It's symbolic of the imbalance between the masculine + the feminine.
This doesn't only lead to physical burnout, but it also keeps the same patterns playing out over and over that are embedded in our shadows, because we are not focusing on (or we are trying to suppress) the dark parts of ourselves that we’d prefer not to look at.
Some of us are really good at facing our shadows. We are very motivated to tackle them and make them better. Others are not very good at this, we have avoidance tendencies and fear around facing our shadows. It's all good, but awareness is key.
Be gentle with yourself and go at your own pace, as long as you are honoring this time of the year in SOME way - just understanding the energetics of this time of the year can make an impact.
Your body knows the way, it wants to pull inwards and slow down as the days get shorter and the light wanes.
Follow that deep inner knowing.
One very simple way that you can do this in ritual is to make some time for yourself tonight (even 20 minutes would suffice) to get quiet, go inwards, and journal about the following:
What is working, and what's not working in the following areas of my life?
Light a candle, do some breathwork, dance, make it holy. Whatever feels good to you.
Really feel into the gratitude and celebration of what's working in each area, and use the reflections on what isn't working to create some intentions on how you'd like your life to shift there.
Ritual does not have to be complicated. Once you are connected to the deeper purpose of why this is sacred, you make it your own.
I'd love to hear anything that comes up for you after this process - feel free to reply to this email and let me know.
Sending Equinox Blessings,
Leigh-Anne is a psychologist based in Los Angeles specializing in next-level love, sex, and relationships. She is the founder of Feminine Rising, a global community for women. You can find her on Instagram @feminine__rising