In 2017, I chose the name Feminine Rising for my women's community. Without a doubt, this can be interpreted many different ways. So, what's my interpretation of Feminine Rising?
The feminine is clearly rising up to take her rightful place alongside the masculine - within each of us individually, and collectively on a larger scale.
I say alongside very intentionally - because I do not believe in punishing the masculine by overtaking, shaming or suppressing it. We need the healthy expression of both to be in balance.
I am a bit different from others doing women's work, as I am not calling for a matriarchy to rise up and suppress men. I am fed up with hierarchies of all kinds, and we need to move past this way of thinking to evolve as a human race.
We ALL have masculine + feminine sides. Yet as the masculine relates to men, it is true that they have a lot of work to do to release toxic masculinity and embody the healthy masculine. They have been conditioned and socialized just as women have been conditioned and socialized.
That work is HAPPENING and things are shifting. I fully support those doing this type of men's work - John Wineland, David Deida, Stefanos Sifandos and others - as it is very needed at this time.
There are so many men waking up and embracing this work, and it's a beautiful thing. At the same time, we as women have our own work to do, and that's what I am passionate about helping with.
The new age of Masculine + Feminine partnership - both within ourselves as individuals, and together in relationships - is here, and I am passionate about ushering in this new paradigm.
Many women (and men) are misinformed about the healthy, pure expression of the feminine. This is because we are not taught about what femininity truly means from a deeper, more spiritual level.
(The same can be said about the masculine. So men and women alike are left with distorted, confused teachings and models of what it means to be masculine + feminine.)
When most of us think about femininity, we think of superficial things like appearance. That's such a shame, because the true definition of the feminine goes so much deeper.
So what does femininity really mean, and why does it matter?
This is not about the physical bodies we reside in, although you can certainly make an argument that the biological expression of the feminine and masculine through our physical forms is part of it.
The vagina as a sacred portal of receptivity and the penis as a tool of penetration are metaphoric representations of the feminine + masculine energies on a spiritual level. However, you don't need to have a physical penis to carry around an energetic cock in the world, and vice versa.
Beyond the physical level and into a deeper, more spiritual level, this is about the expression of two different frequencies found all throughout nature, the yin + the yang, which ideally should be in balance. It's about polarity.
And while we are talking about polar opposites, true integration of both means we can flow along the spectrum, understanding and mastering the healthy expression of both and how they complement each other.
We all have masculine and feminine energies inside of us, and we all fall somewhere along the spectrum of both.
However, for a very long period of time, the feminine has been misunderstood, suppressed, and disrespected. For women especially, this can lead to energetic discord, especially for those of us who tend to have a more innate feminine frequency.
I don't really come across many women who are truly embodying their healthy feminine expression. I don't care where they fall along the spectrum of masculine + feminine, most women simply have not been properly educated about what the healthy feminine even IS so that they can become aware of how to incorporate (or re-embrace) it into their lives.
Women have been taught that embodying masculine characteristics is the way to get respect, power, and protection, at the expense of being able to relax and soften into our femininity. Constant striving, doing, and achieving have left us burnt out and unable to experience the bliss of deep receptivity and pleasure.
Many women have achieved great success and financial abundance through relying on masculine characteristics, but often struggle with burnout, disconnection from their bodies, sexual difficulties, and an inability to slow down + truly savor what they have accomplished.
There are also some women who appear very feminine on a superficial level, but deep down they are disconnected and/or confused about the true definition of the feminine and have this underlying sense that something is off.
The root of anxiety and depression in women can have many causes, but I believe that a lack of connection to our feminine essence, or shakti, can be a contributing factor in many cases.
Most women also lack the knowledge about polarity in romantic relationships, and may be in a partnership that lacks passion and magnetism, leading to deep levels of dissatisfaction.
I believe that we all have a need to experience deep love and sexual fulfillment, and when this is not being felt, we all have a yearning for something more.
Additionally, both the feminine and the masculine have healthy + toxic ways of expressing themselves. We are currently cleansing the toxicity within both frequencies that has been holding humanity back from true ascension. There is a beautiful divine union that occurs with the honoring and expression of both, the wholeness and true integration of yin + yang.
Through my own reclamation of the feminine, I was able to deeply transform myself and those around me, in addition to attracting the love of my life.
That isn't to say that I embody my feminine 100% of the time. There's no need to! I see and deeply honor both the feminine + masculine within myself, and thoroughly enjoy dancing between the two to experience the full spectrum of life.
The fun of polarity in relationship with another human is that you can play around with embodying more of one frequency over the other, while your partner does the opposite, to truly amplify the magnetism and sexual attraction. And what's amazing is that this can also be a dance, where both partners can embody and heal BOTH within themselves.
I wasn't able to FULLY heal and soften into my feminine side before meeting my partner and practicing this with him consciously. And God, I cannot tell you how good it feels to fully surrender and be held by him in this space. This requires a level of deep trust in your partner.
Before getting to this place, I was disconnected from my feminine, totally burnt out, holding shame around my body + sexuality, and wasn't at all enjoying the slower, sensual pleasures of life.
Now, after studying the feminine mysteries for the past five years and really embodying the teachings, I have healed on a physical, emotional, mental + spiritual level. I'm living life at a completely different frequency, and everyone around me can see it.
I am now dedicated to helping women reconnect to their feminine, remove layers of internalized misogyny, heal burnout and imbalance, and experience what life can be like to live full spectrum.
My purpose is to help you:
Because I believe that we experience the most profound level of transformation through conscious partnership, which includes sacred sexuality, I have a specific focus on love, sex + relationships in my practice.
I currently offer 1:1 sessions, women's circles, and retreats to help women become the best version of themselves in order to attract epic love, or deepen their relationship with their partners. Get in touch if you want to learn more.
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Although astrology has evolved over my lifetime from what used to be a more fatalistic approach to one that is more fluid, I still see people drawn to astrology giving far too much of their power away. Just look at Mercury retrograde - people cannot handle it. And when the sun moves into a sign they don't like, it's a bad month all around. This perspective comes from the view that life is happening to them - that they are powerless. Something greater is pulling the puppet strings.
We cannot continue to give our power away to external forces. I believe that astrological events magnify certain energies that we can co-create with, which is incredibly beautiful. Every sign and planet is an archetype reflecting the possibilities of what can unfold for us - as above, so below. If certain signs or astrological happenings rub you the wrong way, it's an opportunity to engage in a deeper inquiry with yourself on why this is the case.
For example, Leo used to be one of my least favorite signs because I thought it was too proud, too boastful. After working with astrology on a deeper level (in addition to gaining maturity) I realized that was because I used to have major social anxiety and hated being in the spotlight. The thought of being loud and seen was not in my realm of possibilities. Now I love Leo for the inspiration + courage it provides. I love expanding my definition of who I am + who I can be in this world.
Along the same lines, beware of being locked into your sun sign, or even your whole chart for that matter. We can amplify whatever qualities we might be lacking in our charts through conscious cultivation. Never allow anything in this world to limit your endless possibility of expression.
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A new resource for everyone:
Lately, I've been helping a lot of individuals get clear on what they want, need, and deserve in romantic relationships, whether they are single or currently in one.
As many of you know, this was a process I also had to go through in order to attract my current partner and love of my life, so I feel VERY passionately about it.
I've developed a formula that works, and I've broken it down into clear, actionable steps for you. Today I created a PDF guide that completely outlines how you also can get clear on what you want, need, and deserve. This guide also provides valuable next steps, whether you are single and looking to manifest the perfect partner, or already have a relationship that you want to take to the next level.
Download it here.
Additionally, for those of you who work through this PDF and are looking for additional support, I'm offering a 90 minute group call this Sunday, August 16th from 3:30 - 5:00 PST over Zoom, so everyone is welcome worldwide. We'll discuss the topic in more detail and I'll answer any questions you may have.
The cost is $15, and if you'd like to join, simply email me to RSVP.
Sending all good things,
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Leigh-Anne is a psychologist based in Los Angeles specializing in next-level love, sex, and relationships. She is the founder of Feminine Rising, a global community for women. You can find her on Instagram @feminine__rising